My TOP, VERY BEST FINDS this year so far…are: Sri Lanka (yeh, lucky me, or is it just being 50+, & therefore a more urgent traveller?);a seemingly simple face cloth and finally, an incredible leg transformation kit.

I’ve discovered that once you hit 50, you are more aware of time running out, which, in a way, is a really good thing, as not only do you throw caution to the wind and do things like book an amazing holiday to Sri Lanka, (where I discovered all kinds of nature’s wonders, including natural beauty products, this will be in a future post, as there is way too much to tell you), but you also try your hardest to get the things you really like and want. So when something “wows” me, I want to share it, so if you can’t get to Sri Lanka just yet, you may well at least be able to get the following gems into your beauty regime


I’ve discovered that once you hit 50, you are more aware of time running out, which, in a way, is a really good thing, as not only do you throw caution to the wind and do things like book an amazing holiday to Sri Lanka, (where I discovered all kinds of nature’s wonders, including natural beauty products, this will be in a future post, as there is way too much to tell you), but you also try your hardest to get the things you really like and want. So when something “wows” me, I want to share it, so if you can’t get to Sri Lanka just yet, you may well at least be able to get the following gems into your beauty regime.

THE WIPE OUT MICROFIBRE FACE CLOTH: I’ve been lucky enough to do a lot of ‘beauty’ modelling for QVC UK, (a tv shopping channel), where I get to demonstrate a considerable amount of products. Whilst doing these demos, I obviously have to use the very products we are selling; so I get very good, real experiences of each and every one. Not many things really make me sit up and shout “wow”, but this face cloth made me thoroughly “wow”, and “wow” very aloud. I LOVE THIS SIMPLE FLANNEL. It literally GRABS tight onto every single bit of dirt, grime and make up; one that leaves your face INCREDIBLY clean and lovely, but without taking off an extra layer of skin. It’s much more brilliant than any normal flannel could ever even hope to be. Even with eye make up – this flannel removes it easily, with just water and nothing else. In my opinion, The Wipe Out , is The Face Cloth God: in a league of its own.

My beautiful friend Susie and I (& our legs) many years ago

THE GAME CHANGING LEG COLLECTION: Again I have QVC to thank for introducing me to this next set of products. All by Margaret Dabbs. A podiatrist; a foot guru; a string of salons’ owner; an innovator and a general just amazing person. Some of you may well have experienced the luxury of a treatment at one of her many clinics. (London, Dubai, Doha, Gloucester..), others will have, like me, discovered her through QVC; and, for those of you who have not yet had the pleasure, I am delighted to introduce her (& her wonderful wares). She is mainly known for her incredible foot treatments, of which I myself am an avid fan (Foot Hygiene Cream) and use many of her other products, on a regular basis. She also has developed great products for the hands and nails, but her latest and biggest  ‘wow’, is a set of ENCROYABLE treatments for the legs.

I already do an all over body scrub on, almost, a daily basis. So that’s quite a lot. Plus I moisturise religiously après shower, with either pure coconut oil, SBC Collagen Gel, Flora Mare Body Lotion or Vaseline Intensive Care Body lotion, so I thought I was already doing my best. Little did I know. My leg-skin was in for a massive treat. We had under six minutes to demonstrate a whole leg treatment kit – beginning with an uplifting and thorough scrub; rinsing that off; then applying the (in my case) YELLOW (or you can chose BLACK) mask treatment all over all of the legs, then waiting 12 minutes (we had, at the most, 3mins) then rinsing that off; and finally moisturising with the firming leg serum. My legs looked like they’d been photoshopped. The skin was visibly much, much smoother and silkier, as did it feel. The thread veins seemed to have considerably diminished and there were no visible dry patches. It was literally incredible. I was gob-smacked. And that was only after a mere six minutes. What would happen after 12? I had to buy the kit and believe me, I have not been disappointed. My legs look ten years younger; healthier, silkier and generally just a lot, lot nicer. Plus they feel better, and my circulation has definitely improved. Genius products. Get your legs summer ready; impress yourself. Its a fabulous experience. I really want to literally SHOUT about this set, it is THAT AMAZING. (Unless your legs are already in mint, tippety-top condition, then I guess you wouldn’t notice that much of a dramatic change; but for all the rest of us…do NOT hold back).


Susie, with her lovely legs



When your whore-moans get outta control. Menopause and them hormones.


Hot flushes. Mood swings. Weight gain. Weakening bones. Ba ba bing. 

You’ve all experienced various levels of premenstrual tension. Maybe you were one of the lucky ones who just shed a dainty tear at a toilet roll TV advert featuring puppies, a day before you came on. Maybe you had furious migraines, got horribly bloated and HATED everything (except chocolate), for at least a week prior to hemorrhaging your pants off.  At both extremes, you were controlled, or at least ‘altered’ by them hormones.

Menopause = PMT x 1000



Yet despite experiencing these periods, on average 450 times in our lifetime, we still find it extremely hard to step outside of ourselves and recognize that what is happening is not necessarily how we ‘normally’ feel.

We’re not normally so tearful, nor are we normally so angry, nor do we normally feel, in simple terms, quite so bloody shit. But it is real in that moment and we have to strive to control our tongues and/or our tears.

So when ‘normal’ leaves the building; when there is virtually zero control and when your whore is moaning BIGTIME, what do you do?


Ask your mum?

I asked my mum (apparently we often meno very similarly to our mothers). She told me she was a complete bitch for a year; she couldn’t really recall anything about the hot flushes and/or sweats – she lived in a very hot country at the time, so there was no gauging it. That wasn’t amazingly helpful.


KNOW I am affected by this meno-bitch; simple logic tells me that. But I struggle to sieve out my normal truth from my whore-moaner. How can I tell if my despair, or my sudden anxiety, or my snappiness is unjustified or not? My hormones make everything feel so convincing and real, that I can’t.


But what I can do, and what I suggest you do too, is to do everything possible to minimize these symptoms. Embrace this challenging time, grab this whore by the hair and ‘own’ her.

Help yourselves as much as you can with your mind, your diet and (for some) HRT. 

HOT FLASHES. I live in a (currently) cold country, so I absolutely DO notice my hot flashes. A very good, old friend of mine explained how she dealt with these infernos. She looked at them as empowering, she was in awe of what her body was capable of – going from 0-60 in seconds, furnace boiling, suddenly soaked in sweat, and then, just as quickly, it’s passed. It’s incredible; it’s something top magicians couldn’t do…okay it’s also embarrassing, inconvenient and causes way more laundry. But be little fascinated by it, because it is pretty amazing.

DIET: there are several foods and drinks you should avoid to minimize the flushes, as well as some foods that help to balance your hormones naturally. With balanced hormones, you are more likely to keep control of weight gain too.

Guide to managing menopause with diet

What NOT to eat and drink.

  • caffeine – one of the WORST for hot flashes, moodiness and sleep problems
  • alcohol – ditto
  • spicy foods – can contribute to more hot flashes, but they’re no where near as damaging as caffeine, alcohol and
  • sugar – cut out sugar and you’re fighting fatigue and weight gain
  • refined carbohydrates – high carb foods contribute to fatigue and moodiness

What TO eat and drink 

  • water, plenty of it – this helps; decrease bloating, vaginal dryness and dry skin
  • fresh fibrous fruits, nuts and vegetables – you need much more calcium now, so go for lentils, almonds, sardines and dark green leafy veg
  • whole grains – oatmeal, quinoa, barley, brown rice – all provide B vitamins which help boost energy, manage stress, and keep the digestive system functioning.
  • soy and flaxseed are thought to mimic estrogen, (this isn’t proven) which can help with mood swings.
  • vitamin D – if you don’t live in a sunny climate, and don’t eat a ton of mackerel or tuna every day, then get some Vitamin D supplements. You should take 1000-2000 international units daily. Vitamin D is essential for calcium absorption (which is essential for bone density) and helps with depression and anxiety.

So all in all, this whore-moaning meno is far more manageable if you DO accept what’s happening and help yourself as much as you can.

Roll with the punches girls and, hopefully, you won’t do the punching.

What to eat during menopause



What’s happened to my waist?! Time to sort yer waist out – let’s Get Waisted


Did Father Christmas aka Santa give you more than you wanted this year? Has your spare tyre gone a little cray-cray? If you’re over 45 then your middle will be attempting to expand, regardless of the festive season, owing to those extreme hormonals doing their wild circus acts indoors. Add that to your alcohol intake (menopausal women are the biggest culprits) being higher than it was in your earlies* (see reference below) and your flab is having a party, possibly even complete with a bouncy castle, blobbing around where your waist used to be.

large waist

It’s not pretty, it’s not clever and it’s certainly not healthy.

So what are you going to do about it?

Sadly, it’s not easy to shift. But it is possible. And the earlier you tackle it, the better you will feel. It’s that simple. It’s not difficult, if you can stay focussed on the end goal, and trust that these small changes will ALL help find that waist again.



1. It’s glaringly obvious, but stop eating so much.

Especially so much rubbish. Why put things into your mouth that aren’t going to achieve anything? I know, I know – because they taste nice and you’re craving them and and and….BUT, the more you eat processed meats for example which are full of salt (SALT both dehydrating and a big contributor to high blood pressure, strokes, heart disease, osteoporosis, stomach cancer, OBESITY, vascular dementia, diabetes, water retention….need I go on?) the more you will want. Salt is evil and addictive.

devil salt

Get rid of it. You’ll have to exercise some will power initially – avoid processed foods; stop adding salt to your fresh food – and you will soon find that your cravings for salt will diminish: thus freeing up your will power to use in another department.

Sugar is equally as bad and in foods that you wouldn’t necessarily have thought of. Read this for more info.

Alcohol is full of sugar  so do try and cut back there too, if you can.


Smoothies are also full of sugar if they’re too heavy with the fruit – be wary of these deceptive ‘health’ drinks.

Reduce your portion sizes. The healthier your diet, the easier this will be, as ’empty calories’, do more damage than good; they play havoc with your sugar levels, making you feel hungrier than before, within a very short space of time.


I highly recommend snacking on pumpkin seeds, as they stave off your hunger; they contain zinc which helps regulate your insulin levels, (part of what controls your hunger levels); they help decrease blood pressure, hot flashes, joint pains and other menopausal symptoms. 9 Amazing Benefits of Pumpkin Seeds


2. Stand up straight, hold it in and walk tall

Actually don’t just walk tall, WALK MORE. If you’re not doing more than 2000 steps a day, then up your step count somehow, this will definitely make a difference. Most phones have a pedometer on them somewhere; find it, or download a health app and start checking your step count. This will encourage you to walk more.


Every time you are walking, try to be conscious of your posture. Walk as tall as you can, remembering to push your shoulders down and back, and to hold your head high. Pull your tummy button in to meet your spine as often as you can remember to do so. Try not to slouch when you’re at your desk or at the dining table. The more often you pull yourself in, whether standing, walking or sitting, the closer you’re getting to burning calories and redefining that waist. All without going to the gym.

3. Drink more water.

waterIt might sound so dumb to some of you, but yes, it does make a big difference. The more water you drink, the more hydrated you are and the better EVERYTHING works – including your circulation which is imperative for flushing out toxins and keeping the systems running smoothly.


Try drinking a large glass every time you get peckish, it will allay the hunger whilst also reminding you to drink more water. You’ll see an improvement in your skin as well.

4. Stretch and do some weights

I know this is now entering territory that some of you won’t want to go to, but if you can do these things too, then you’ll achieve your goal quicker. Getting into shape isn’t all about cardiovascular exercise. Menopausal women in particular should be doing some weights. Not only are weights one of the best things for toning the stomach, but they are crucial to keeping our bones strong which is imperative to avoid osteoporosis – an increasing problem in women aged 45+.

waist-trainer workout

If you can’t get to a gym then start doing the plank – only one to two minutes every day – you’ll soon see the benefits.



Stretching is also great for helping the stomach recoil and get firmer. Yoga and pilates are brilliant for this. Find a class near you, it may help with your emotional well being too.

If you can’t implement all four of these tummy-changing suggestions, then at least try to implement one and you’ll begin to see a difference. But whatever you do, don’t tell yourself its impossible, because it isn’t.

You can GET WAISTED if you want to.

Let’s do this. corset

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Confession time: I’ve gone and cheated. Brazilian style.

Priest-Confession-690x450Even though I listened to my own advice and have been taking supplements, using coconut oil and hair masks etc etc; my hair continued to break at an impossible rate. Unless a pro with loads of serum, talent and patience, gave it a jolly good blowy, my hair remained frizzy and embarrassing. Seeing as I model, this was beginning to possibly cost me work, so DRASTIC ACTION had to be taken – cutting it all off was simply not an option.


The Brazilian blow dry.

I had heard of it years ago, when it first took our hairdressing salons by waves. A mystery wonder treatment that burnt keratin into your hair and left it shiny and straight for a good 3-6 months…for which, some salons were charging as much as £300. Luckily non-menopausal me didn’t need it at that time.

However, times change…having battled for the last year with seriously depleting locks, that snapped, broke and split at every possible moment, I was beginning to truly despair. Until a friend politely suggested I had a Brazilian. So I went and got myself one. Two weeks later (and several washes, with the specified paraben and sulphate free shampoo and conditioner), it is still SO MUCH BETTER than it was. It doesn’t break every time I sneeze, it doesn’t look nearly as bad as it used to, after my lame attempts at drying it nicely. I’m not embarrassed by it. In fact, I love it.

My Brazilian Blow Dry Experience

I will continue to take my supplements, as underneath that lovely keratin lies some troubled tresses and I genuinely think they help. I will also continue to try and care for my hair in the best possible ways, including using decent shampoos and oils etc. So if you’re like me and are about to give up and give it a big chop then maybe a Brazilian will delay the cutting it all off a little longer.

Here’s the shampoo and conditioner I’ve been using

Rule number 5: What the pluck? Just grow a pair!

pretty hairy

So Mother Nature designed us to look our best at about the age of 21…coincidentally when we’re our most fertile. By the time we’re approaching/in our menopause, Mrs M Nature is fervently doing her best to strip us of anything remaining that might be attractive. Already blessing us with wrinkles and crinkles, she then goes that step further and begins to rob us of our brows and lashes. Thanks.

Or were you (like me) a right little plucker, once upon a tweezer?

Back then, I didn’t give a pluck

Either way, if you over-plucked or not, you’re undoubtedly now noticing that those brows and lashes are sadly mere fading follicles.

But do not despair, there’s help out there. A bold and bushy brow, does a lot to liven up the face; as do youthful-looking luscious lashes and if there’s any trace of a follicle (even if it’s really blonde, fine and seemingly pointless) you can help them get back to some of their former glory.

Just as we condition the hair on our heads, we should be conditioning those lashes and brows. Yes there are false lashes out there and for special ocassions, why not? Fake brows…erm…not so sure…and there’s only so much coloring in you can do.

So we need to make the most of what we’ve got naturally and that means investing a little more than we did in our earlies.

there’s nothing like having natural lashes n brows

Over a decade ago, the wife of an ophthalmologist suffered major loss of hair from her brows and lashes due to the serious medication she was on. The ophthalmologist created a serum for her, which worked so well, the brand Revitalash was born.

I noticed my lashes were a lot less lush a few years ago; I discovered Revitalash and  have been using both the lash and brow conditioner ever since. Not only have the grown back much fuller and thicker than I ever imagined they could, but they’re also darker. As these two particular conditioners encourage the pigment too. And we all love a strong pigment, right??

It’s easy to use, one sweep with the wand across clean, dry lashes once a day and its the same with the brows. Either at night time or in the morning – I find it mildly irritating at night and have a tendency to rub my eyes, so I do mine in the morning. Be patient and persevere with the products; you won’t see any difference for a good two to three weeks and then boom…you’ll suddenly see the difference, its like they’ve come from no where…but you must be consistent and use the products every day/night.

all my own
got me some lashes n brows

Since Revitalash came into the world of beauty, there have been many (maybe not quite so good) imitations of this product, that you can buy almost anywhere.

The Cheap Alternative

If you can’t afford any of these, then even putting simple vaseline on your eyebrows at night will help keep them nice and healthy. However you can’t put vaseline on your eyelashes…but you can put on castor oil…


read more about using castor oil here

One of things that sets Revitalash apart from the rest is the hygiene one gets from the specially designed ingredients within the serum, so if you’re using castor oil, be sure to refresh your mascara wand regularly, if not daily. I personally would use it on the lashes first, then the brows and then bin it. You can buy cheap disposable mascara wands in bulk here

If you do go for the castor oil alternative, look for ‘cold pressed’ hexane free, castor oil here

So girls, if you’re feeling a bit brow beaten or ‘what the pluck’ and short n stubby in the lash department, try helping them out with any of the conditioning recommendations above and you’ll be pleasantly surprised. You may even be able to freaking flutter again….

Bette Davis Eyes


Rule number 4: I scream for SUNSCREEN!

Save your face from more wrinkles right now

Dracula got it right. He knew that the daylight would kill him. No matter what they say about him, he did have good skin.


During our 50’s our skin changes a lot. Its gets bumpier and duller; thinner in places, thicker in others; there are saggier bits and more wrinkles. But hold tight, you CAN STOP this from getting a lot worse. But, you need to start today, whatever the weather.

The biggest thing that causes premature aging is light. Yes: sunlight, cloudy light, computer screen light, through-the-car-window light, basically pretty much any light. And not enough of you know this. Protecting your skin against daylight is a MUST. Every single day of the year. A study in Australia done over a four year period CONCLUSIVELY proved that by wearing sunscreen every single day, not only helped in the protection against skin cancer, but also with pigmentation, loss of elasticity, open pores, dullness, lines and wrinkles.

Report on the 4 year study

A 69 year old truck driver reveals how half his face has been so irrevocably damaged by the sun, see the difference for yourselves.

Sun damage to half the face

Yet not enough of us wear sunscreen on a daily basis. WHY? Because we don’t live in Australia? Because we think as it’s dull, cold winter we won’t need it? Because we need vitamin D? Because its cloudy? Because we want a tan? Because we think of sunscreen as gloopy, greasy, sticky and claustrophobic? Because we think we’re going to look like flipping clowns?

sunscreen face

Are we insane? (yes) Or do we just not realise the extent of the damage simple daylight does to our faces? Or is that we just want to wear our favourite moisturizers? Well here’s the thing, you can still wear your moisturizers (in fact many have now incorporated sunscreen into their creams, but I’ll come back to that in a minute); you don’t have to look like a total freak and you’ll be even more insane NOT to protect your face. Some people say that sunscreens can be harmful, that we don’t know what damage can be caused by the ingredients…well, there’s an awful lot more people dying of skin cancers than there are dying of sunscreen. But you need the right one.



You get UVA (A = aging) & UVB (B = burning) rays, so you must get a moisturizer or face sunscreen that has BROAD SPECTRUM protection. Broad spectrum means that it will protect against both A & B rays. The A’s penetrate deeper into the skin & cause damage that will come and haunt you forever if you don’t stop them now.


And SP15 is no where near enough. The fairer your skin, the more prone you are to damage; but if you’re very dark skinned don’t think you don’t need it, because you absolutely do. You should be looking for creams with broad spectrum cover of anything between factor 30 & 50. And that’s just for the winter. If you’re somewhere where its very hot and sunny, then you need to use minimum 50 and make sure you either reapply when needed or get one that is once a day application. And wear a hat. And sunglasses. And maybe take an umbrella if you want to look really professional.

Cameron Diaz Protected
Cameron knows her skin is worth it

So come on girls get wise. Save those lovely faces of yours. I personally use a number of different products. When I use both moisturizers and a sunscreen (specifically crafted for the face), I leave at least 15 minutes in between applications and allow 15 minutes indoors after applying sunscreen, to allow it to properly sink in, before I step outside.

Here are a few of the top brands that have that broad spectrum SPF you need.


Buy best selling British brand here

Alpha H is an Australian brand that totally understands the incredible importance and value of protecting yourself on a daily basis. I frequently use their daily moisturiser with a built in factor 50: this product is genuinely both moisturising and protective.


Buy Alpha H Sp 50 here

Another one of my favorites is by the Swiss brand Ultra Sun. They are incredibly strong on the efficacy of their products, they manufacture their creams so that they only have to be applied once a day and they work. I sometimes find (depending upon what I’ve put my skin through) that I need a moisturiser as well, but in the summer more often not.


Here’s one place you can get it

However, if you do find that you are left with a ashy or white residue, then try moisturizing a good few minutes before applying the sunscreen. Or simply apply some bronzer or foundation on top. If your foundation already has SPF in, then double check that it is both broad spectrum and a high enough factor. Talking of make-up…well that’s another post coming soon..

Meanwhile over to Baz….





7. Sort yer hair out. Hair today, gone tomorrow. Hair care.


Nothing escapes the menopause; collagen loss; more flab and folds; hearing loss; sight loss; hormone blah and hormone blob; but – to top it all – our former crowning glory steadily dissolves into a dull and lifeless, frizzy, fuzz.

And it happens quick. Once barely able to get a large hair tie around my ponytail, I can now wrap a small tie around at least 3 times.

My ponytail  has become a punytail.

Obviously I blame my sons, but in fairness, its not all down to them. I would be on this dissipated, stringy strand now anyway: why? Because I’m on the chuffing meno-train.

However, at least I am lucky enough to be working in the beauty industry and, as a result, have happened upon several hair-carers; all of whom promise thickening, strengthening and lustre.

And, oh how we love lustre (aka ‘youth’?) Almost as much as we love coffee, and that’s the key. Unfortunately its not drinking coffee that helps our tresses, but caffeine – applied topically.

coffee head


There are, of course, many brands that claim to help nurture the hair you have, make it stronger (therefore lasts longer), fuller, thicker, shinier etc; but there are some that are better than others and with ALL of them, you must be patient (we all know how long our hair takes to grow) and you MUST USE the products exactly as advised on the packaging.

Nothing works if you don’t persistently use it.


HAIRFIX is a brand born to treat women exactly our age. It’s a clever recipe that includes time-release caffeine, which works throughout the night to really get down deep in those follicles. It’s a cost-effective serum (as you use only a small amount), which you rub into your scalp 3/4 times a week, at night, wherever your concerns with your thinning hair are.

Special offer here on Hairfix until end of September

But you also need to be a lot more clever and considerate than you were in your earlies, in order to get that lustre back (or near to it at any rate) and there are several other things you can do which all help.

Drink plenty of WATER (yes water even helps your hair)

Make sure you get enough Vitamin B12 (poultry, salmon, fortified cereal)

BIOTIN – also known as Vitamin H, a great supplement for the hair (and skin)

Take Viviscal – a supplement containing AminoMar C (shark and mollusk powder, an organic form of silica)

10 Tips to Naturally Regrow You Hair

conclusive research proving MPS can significantly improve hair

DON’T use HIGH HEAT tools on your hair (I’m guilty of this one) – no more than 150 degrees centigrade, if you can help it.

Friday Flop, not enough goodness going on in my barnet

HRT Estrogen, estrogen, estrogen. You need it. Go and get some (via the Doctor), because your body stops producing it, (maybe because its banking on you dying at about 65; but that’s not necessarily the case these days) and, our hair needs it. (obvs consult your Dr on this one).

SILK PILLOWCASES – these have added benefit of less wrinkles on the face too, and believe me the difference they make to my hair is immeasurable. (I must get some more, my old ones have died)

SOFT WATER – If you live in a hard water area, see if you can invest in a filter even if its just one that you put in the shower (like this one)

Try not to wash your hair too often. I sometimes just brush my thoroughly through, let it get wet in the shower and then add conditioner. By doing this, you’re not stripping your hair of too many natural oils, whilst still giving it a lovely freshen up.

Hair Masks: use them. Whether you make your own (some great recipes here) or use shop-bought ones, they truly make a difference.

Treatments: DITTO. this is a great one easy to fit into any routine. Just apply onto damp hair for as long as possible before washing out

Likewise use a good leave in conditioner or at least use a primer that will help you achieve a fabulous shine.

make over
From frizzy mop to good on top


SO girls, don’t be defeated by bad hair. You can have a good hair day if you just take a little bit more time and give your hair some much needed TLC. Even if its just egg, honey, olive oil and avocado mushed together and slapped on for an hour or so once a week when no one is looking….just remember, you’re very much worth it.